Hi there,

How are you feeling today?

Last time, we talked about “Life Balance”, but today I would like to talk about something really important: YOUR MINDSET!

I want to dive deeper into how your mindset can shape your entire life.

Are you ready to explore this topic together?

Throughout my transformative journey, Carol S. Dweck’s book “Mindset: The New Psychology of Success” became a source of inspiration for me. Carol is an influential psychologist known for her pioneering research in the fields of motivation, personality, and developmental psychology. In the book, she introduces the concepts of fixed and growth mindsets and explains that the mindset you adopt plays a key role in shaping your success, happiness, and overall well-being. A fixed mindset believes that abilities are static, while a growth mindset thrives on the belief that abilities can be developed.


Let’s delve deeper and examine both of these ideas:

  • A fixed mindset is a belief that one’s abilities, skills, and intelligence are fixed traits that cannot be significantly changed or developed. People with a fixed mindset tend to see their qualities as inherent and unchangeable, which causes them to avoid challenges, fear failure, and seek validation and affirmation of their existing abilities. They might think that intelligence, talents, or skills are predetermined and that there is little room for improvement.
  • A growth mindset is characterized by the belief that one’s abilities and intelligence can be improved through hard work, perseverance, and a willingness to learn. Those with a growth mindset are motivated by challenges, view setbacks as opportunities for growth, and have a strong desire to expand their skills and knowledge. They recognise that intelligence and abilities can be developed over time through dedication and effort.

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“The way we think greatly impacts how we behave, react, a ultimately achieve results in different aspects of life. “

In conclusion, the way we think, either with a fixed mindset or a growth mindset, has a significant impact on our success, happiness, and overall quality of life. By adopting a growth mindset, we allow ourselves to explore new opportunities, develop resilience, and constantly work towards self-improvement, which ultimately leads to greater accomplishments and a more satisfying life.

Now, we will discuss practical ways to determine your mindset, provide actionable tips for improvement, present real-world case studies, and offer a daily routine and a 30-day action plan for cultivating a growth mindset.

1. ASSESSING YOUR MINDSET

Let’s get you started with your first 4 key questions.

Self-Assessment Test:

  • 1. Do you believe your abilities are innate and unchangeable, or can they be developed with effort?
    • a) Innate and unchangeable.
    • b) Can be developed with effort.
  • 2. How do you approach challenges?
    • a) Avoid them to prevent failure.
    • b) Embrace them as opportunities to learn and grow.
  • 3. Feedback from others is:
    • a) Threatening and critical.
    • b) Constructive and valuable for improvement.
  • 4. When facing setbacks, do you:
    • a) Give up easily.
    • b) Persist and adapt to overcome obstacles.

Scoring: Mostly a): Fixed Mindset; Mostly b): Growth Mindset.

Let’s keep going with the assessment to get a better understanding of your mindset. Don’t worry, we’ll figure this out together!

Now, I want to ask you a few more questions. Please, be completely sincere. Are you up for it? Let’s dive in!

Please answer the following questions with “Agree,” “Disagree,” or “Neutral.”

  1. I avoid challenges because they make me feel anxious.
  2. I believe my abilities are fixed and cannot be changed much.
  3. Feedback and criticism feel like personal attacks.
  4. I give up easily when faced with obstacles.
  5. I find it hard to celebrate others’ successes.
  6. Effort is fruitless; success is about being naturally gifted.
  7. I often feel threatened by others’ accomplishments.
  8. I prefer sticking to what I know rather than trying new things.
  9. I believe talent alone creates success.
  10. When faced with setbacks, I tend to dwell on my mistakes.

Scoring: Count the number of “Agree” responses. The higher the score, the more likely you lean towards a fixed mindset.

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So, do you have a fixed or a growth mindset?

  • If you have a growth mindset, Congratulations!!!
  • If have a fixed mindset, Congratulations too!!

Remember, you can develop a growth mindset with effort and practice. Developing a growth mindset involves cultivating a belief that abilities and intelligence can be developed through dedication, effort, and learning.

Do you want to develop a growth mindset? Well, here is an example to illustrate how you can develop a growth mindset.

Example: Learning a New Skill

Imagine you are passionate about a foreign country, let’s say you love Japan and you want to learn Japanese, but Japanese is a completely new language for you. In this scenario, you might initially face challenges that could trigger a fixed mindset.

Fixed Mindset Thoughts:

  • “I am not good at speaking languages; I will never be good at this.”
  • “Learning a new language is too difficult; it’s not for me.”
  • “I will never be as talented as those who started earlier in life.”

To transition to a growth mindset, follow these steps:

  1. Embrace Challenges:

Instead of avoiding the challenge of learning Japanese, view it as an exciting opportunity for personal growth.

Recognise that everyone starts as a beginner, and improvement comes with practice.

  1. Value Effort:
  • Understand that your progress is not solely determined by natural talent but by the effort you invest.
  • Celebrate the time and energy you dedicate to learning, regardless of immediate results.
  1. Learn from Criticism:
  • Seek feedback from your teacher or other students.
  • Rather than taking criticism personally, use it as constructive input for improvement.
  1. Set Goals:
  • Establish clear, achievable goals for your Japanese learning.
  • Break down larger goals into smaller, manageable tasks, making progress more tangible.
  1. Persevere in the Face of Setbacks:
  • Anticipate challenges and setbacks as a normal part of the learning process.
  • Instead of giving up when facing difficulties, see them as opportunities to learn and refine your skills.
  1. Cultivate Curiosity:
  • Approach learning with a curious mindset.
  • Explore different methods to keep the learning process engaging and enjoyable.
  1. Positive Self-Talk:
  • Challenge negative thoughts and replace them with positive affirmations.
  • Remind yourself that improvement takes time and consistent effort.
  1. Seek Learning Opportunities:
  • Take advantage of resources available online.
  • Surround yourself with individuals who share a growth mindset and can offer support and encouragement.
  1. Celebrate Progress:
  • Acknowledge and celebrate small victories along the way.
  • Focus on the improvements you have made rather than dwelling on areas that still need development.
  1. Adopt a Long-Term Perspective:
  • Recognise that mastery of any skill is a continuous journey.
  • Embrace the process of learning and growing, understanding that expertise comes with persistent effort over time.

By applying these principles to learning Japanese, you not only acquire a new skill but also develop a growth mindset that can be transferred to various aspects of your life. Remember that adopting a growth mindset is an ongoing practice, and with dedication, you will find yourself approaching challenges with resilience, enthusiasm, and a belief in your ability to continually improve.

3. MY COACHEES EXPERIENCES

A lot of my coachees usually have a fixed mindset when they first start working with me. That’s why they seek the help of a coach. However, thanks to their dedication, effort, and successful implementation of effective techniques, they can finish my programmes with a growth mindset and are happy with the results.

Here are some examples:

1. Sarah and James, are both in their 40s and working at the European Parliament, in Brussels. They avoided challenges, fearing failure and criticism. Resisted feedback, viewing it as a personal attack. And struggled with low morale and lacked motivation.

Now, they:

  1. Embraced challenges, and continuously sought learning opportunities.
  2. Used setbacks as motivation for improvement.
  3. Celebrated colleagues’ successes, fostering a positive work environment.

2. Emma and Michael, both in their 30s and working in European Affairs in Brussels, faced identical challenges. They had a fixed mindset and linked success solely to inherent talent. They constantly avoided setting challenging goals, limiting personal growth. And they repeatedly experienced frustration and dissatisfaction in their careers.But now, they:

1.Valued effort and perseverance, attributing success to hard work.

2. Open to feedback, seeing it as a means for professional development.

3. Set ambitious goals and worked diligently to achieve them.

3. Alex and Sophie, who are 50 and 32 years old respectively and both employed at the European Commission, had completely contrasting experiences. Alex views setbacks as opportunities to improve. Adapts to change and constantly updates skills. Known for innovative problem-solving, contributing to his successful career. Sophie displays a growth mindset by actively seeking new experiences. Learns from failures, leverages feedback, and builds strong connections, propelling her career forward.

Do any of these scenarios resonate with you?

Do you feel like it’s time to shift your mindset and start enjoying life to the fullest again?

4. TIPS TO IMPROVE YOUR MINDSET

Here are 6 extra tips to improve your mindset:

  1. Replace “I can’t” with “I can’t do it yet.
  2. Celebrate the success of others; it doesn’t diminish your achievements.
  3. Cultivate a love for learning; enjoy the process, not just the outcome.
  4. Focus on the process and progress, not just the end goal.
  5. Take risks and step out of your comfort zone regularly.
  6. Develop resilience; setbacks are part of the journey.

Let’s work together to make it happen!

5.TAKING ACTION

The better way to improve is by acting immediately!

Here are 5 simple steps to start:

  1. Acknowledge the Fixed Mindset: Recognise and admit your current mindset.
  2. Challenge Negative Thoughts: Replace them with positive, growth-oriented affirmations.
  3. Learn from Setbacks: See failures as opportunities to learn and improve.
  4. Seek Feedback and Act on It: Use constructive criticism as a tool for growth.
  5. Set Small, Achievable Goals: Gradually increase difficulty as confidence grows.

6. DAILY ROUTINE

Morning:

  • Set a positive intention for the day.
  • Reflect on one thing you are grateful for.
  • Engage in a brief mindfulness or meditation session (5mn).

During the Day:

  • Embrace challenges and tackle them head-on.
  • Seek feedback on a specific task or project.
  • Replace negative thoughts with positive affirmations.

Evening:

  • Reflect on daily achievements, no matter how small.
  • Identify one thing to improve upon tomorrow.
  • Engage in a relaxing activity before bedtime.

Developing a growth mindset is a transformative journey that positively impacts various aspects of life. By understanding and reshaping your mindset, you can unlock your full potential and enjoy a more fulfilling and successful life.

“Embrace the power of your mind, and the possibilities are endless.”

Final thoughts

Developing a growth mindset is a transformative journey that positively impacts various aspects of life. By understanding and reshaping your mindset, you can unlock your full potential and enjoy a more fulfilling and successful life.

I hope you found the article as enjoyable to read as I did to write.

I would love to continue talk about it and learn from your experiences, so please feel free to contact me or leave a comment.

Have a lovely day.

Alba

Note: Next time, I will tell you about my journey discovering my #IKIGAI and how it led me to become a Master Life and Business Coach.

My Recommended Books:

  1. Mindset: The New Psychology of Success” by Carol S. Dweck
  2. Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance” by Angela Duckworth
  3. Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones” by James Clear
  4. The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment” by Eckhart Tolle.

I’M HERE TO HELP!

If you are struggling to make yourself create the time to think about this, if you are feeling stuck worth something, if you have got questions about what to do next or how to make the e-book work well for you or if the plan you have created has left you feeling anxious about how you are going to manage it, I’m here to help!

Just reply to this post or send me an e-mail. We can either arrange a call together to talk it through for 30mn (absolutely free), or I will reply to your questions by email if you prefer.

Have a lovely day!

Alba – The Happy Human Coach

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